Meant to be
We had a good relationship. We were happy together, but something was missing. I lived in P.A. and he had just moved back to Delaware, but I thought we were doing good. Then, one day he just calls me and tells me that he wants space and we broke up. Well, about a week later he told me that actually, he had messed up really badly! He just didn't have the courage to bring himself to tell me that he had cheated on me! I felt betrayed and as if my world was crashing down on me. But we had been through everything together... we had lost our virginity to each other and had been together for 15 months. So we talked about it and like any other girlfriend, I wanted all the details and I wanted to know how he could possibly do this to me. Then he told me he loved me and wanted me back, but I didn't know if I could trust him again. I thought about it for a while and after thinking about all that we had been through- all the good times, I decided to give him another chance.
When he told me what he had done, I cried and tried to understand how he could do it to me... to us. After a while of letting it cool down, I realized that that wasn't going to pull us apart, no matter what, our love would get through. I forgave him, and we moved on as best we could. I knew I loved him and I wasn't sure if I could ever live without him in my life. I told him how I felt that he had betrayed me, but that I loved him and he meant everything to me. I just told him that I didn't want to just give up, but if we could try to move past this and have a relationship again, that's what I wanted. So we did and I forgave him and moved on!
October of 2003 is when I found out about what he had done, and when I forgave him. The LovePoetry poem that really helped me at the time is I Thank God He Sent You to Me by Celina. This poem has helped me because it reminded me of how I do truly feel and how much I do love him, and how thankful to God I truly am for my man, my best friend, and my soulmate forever and always!
The result of forgiving him and working past it all was great! My boyfriend and I are still together and happier than ever. The incident has actually brought us closer together and really proven our love for each other. I couldn't ask for anyone better to be with. In the long run, I definitely think I reacted wisely! I couldn't be happier than I am now. I don't know if I could move on if I had just walked away and given up, so I'm definitely happy with my decision to forgive him and move on with him. I am happier now than I could have ever imagined!
The only advice I could ever give someone is that if you truly love someone, and truly believe that you and your partner are meant for each other, you should never give up. There will always be bumps in the road, but true love can get through anything! Always follow your heart, true feelings will never lie! I truly believe that if you truly love someone and they truly love you, the two of you together can get through anything together and still be happy and truly in love!
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